Family Travel

A Parent and Adult Child Walk into a Bar…


Sarah Schlichter
Sarah Schlichter
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    Not everyone gets the chance to travel with a parent while both parties are pretty much in their prime. My father and I were lucky enough to have this opportunity on a recent 12-day Crystal cruise from New York City to Reykjavik, during which we shared a stateroom. We finished the cruise with a closer bond between us and a greater understanding of who the other is as an adult.

    But we also discovered a lot about how — and how NOT — to travel as a parent/adult child combo.

    Here are four lessons we learned during our 12 days:

    1.

    Decide bathroom etiquette on day one.

    A frantic “no, no, no” from my dad at two in the morning when I almost walked in on him in the loo was the kick in the pants we needed to come up with a plan. It can be as simple as knocking on the door.

    2.

    Pre-empt assumptions before they start.

    You may not mind if strangers assume the relationship between you and your parent or child is something else, but my father and I found it uncomfortable. We learned quickly to introduce ourselves as father and daughter to avoid any awkwardness.



    Related: 18 Ways to Keep the Peace with Your Travel Companion



    3.

    Keep your opinions to yourself.

    Though this works both ways, the lesson was most prominent for my dad. “Your daughter [or son] is an adult,” he says. “She doesn’t need or want you to treat her like a child or have you offer your opinion on most issues of daily living.” So if you think your child is eating something they shouldn’t or should be wearing a sweater because you’re cold, keep those thoughts to yourself.

    4.

    Make time for yourselves.

    Traveling together for more than a day or two can feel like a lot, whether you’re sharing a room or not. To make sure you each get enough “me” time, do a few things separately. You don’t both have to do the same tour or go to the same museum. Spending half a day apart makes the coming back together again at dinner that much more fun as you share what you each did.



    — written by Dori Saltzman